*Kak ton nak bebel panjang ye. so sila bersedia*
Amboi amboi amboi.. Tajuk provokatif sgt gittew.. Have you read this fb status? Katanya it is a response to a housewife yg asyik meroyan ckp penat. Kalau di baca post dia i would give her and award for being a bionic women! Pagi bangun masak untuk budak2, kejut, hantar pg skool/taska/tadika then pegi office naik beribu anak tangga kene basuh dgn boss then lunch amek anak bagi makan pg balik kerja then kol 5 amek anak balik sambung masak jemur baju iron baju. Kol 9 padammmm.. Perghhh banyak nyer energy kak tonnn...
For those of you yang baca this blog for quite sometimes, u would have known that i pernah berada dkt both sides of the coin. I was a high powered career women once (eceh eceh), and now living my life as SAHM by choice. Let me tell u this, both pon penat and equally stressed depending on the situation that you are in! What drives you are your motives and passion. Kenapa? Kenapa nak kerja? Nak bantu economy keluarga? dari segi apa? kemewahan? makan pakai? u don't want your son pakai kasut bata, nak pakai reebok? kenapa jadi SAHM? nak tgk anak membesar depan mata? nak jaga keluarga? laki kau boleh tanggung so kau nak goyang kaki?
Dewasa ini (nampak tak ayat) , i tried not to judge org punya personality based on their rant from FB status, or ig hashtag or blog. This status has been shared few times and i read all the comments. Benda yg org persoalkan adalah "laki dia pi mana?". So i pg the original post and baca, she explained already yang her husband always comes home at 9pm. If he is home earlier, beban sedikit ringan. But org yg tanya dlm shared status wouldn't know her response. Dan org mula but conclusion yang her husband tak guna, not helping, and mula org lain plak relate dengan their "husband not helping" story. See???? nampak tak berdosanya akak malukan suami akak disitu? I begin to question her motives writing this status? Is she trying to rant? complaint? she can't tell her husband off so she has to write this status?
I went ahead and tgk profile the husband. Pegawai badan beruniform. Ok kerjanga. So now, lead me to another question, economy keluarga mana yg kak ton cuba tambah? Betul ada setengah keluarga mmg memerlukan both husband and wife working to make end meets. Tapi dlm kes kak ton ni, i believe suami mampu untuk memberikan perkara asas tanggungan seperti pakaian, makan, pakai dan tempat tinggal. Tetapi, sekiranya kita mahukan lebih, dgn kata lain, kasut taknak pakai kasut beli di pasar malam, sekurang-kurangnya kasut bata, handbag carlo rino dan make up MAC tak lupa tudung fareeda, jadi ia bukan berlandaskan make ends meet tadi, but it is more of "satisfaction"untuk ada "lebih". Jadi my question is, adakah layak untuk kita rant? untuk kita beritahu satu dunia betapa penatnya kita bekerja untuk make ends meet?
Thru my pnyelidikan, I also got to know that kak ton on top of kerja penat setiap hari siap buat extra part time work. Jadi salah siapa kak ton penat? Kenapa Kak ton buat semua tu? Kak ton buat sebab suka berniaga?
Nampak ayat kat atas? Dalam bahasa melayunya kita panggil keikhlasan. Bila kita suka kerja kita, kita buat bersungguh, dan kita ikhlas. Walau kita kene bambu kita masih tersenyum.
Let me tell you about my journey pulak. That was me 10 years back with the organisation that I worked for. I love the working environment, I like my boss, love my collegus etc etc. I travelled to geneva, bangkok, vietnam every 2-3 months and dalam negara penang, kuching, kota kinabalu, johor bahru every other week. I enjoyed myself, penat mmg penat, BUT i enjoyed my work. I leave the kids with my maid, I dont feel guilty, why? Masa mula2 beranak, I promised myself to give only breast milk until they are 2 yrs old. And I managed to do so. I pumped at work like crazy, bawak balik susu yg di pump almost 400onz from geneva. but at the same time I know, I have to make up for the lost time. What I did was buying presents for my kids like crazy! Missy 3 has her first designer dress (burbery) and chanel shoes at 1 year old. Mainan jangan ckpla, all the latest toys dkt toys r us rack tu mmg dia ada.
But lama-lama I realised that I dont know my kids. I have to be honest, I bukan mcm bionic woman kak ton tu yg masak for the kids etc etc... Balik kerja I only have couple of hours with them and sleep. I see anak2 membesar through my maid's eyes. For example, when Missy 3 starts to walk, I was all excited to let people know only to be turned down by my mom and maid "öh last week lagi dia dah jalan". Few problems at work adding to my disapointment and I finally succumbed to the situation. I begin to re-evalate my priority. Further discussion with El-kapitan and I decided that leaving the organisation is the best possible option there is. It was with a heavy heart. Tahu kenapa? Because of the stereo typing that the community has put on SAHM. "Mengharapkan duit suami", "no buying power", "what if he leaves u"are some of the questions popped up on my mind. Don't deny it, all of you "career women" (including me) ada this perception towards SAHM.
Now I am not telling you that career women don't put their kids as priority. Don't get me wrong. It is just me. I am not a multi tasker or bionic as some women. I know at least two friends yg gila terror bahagi masa between "work", "part time job"and family... Ok boring kan korang baca... bersambung di next entry....
End of part one - [part 2 is a tribute to few of my working friends....]
SAYA EMO JADI SILA IGNORE GRAMMAR & TYPING ERROR(s)
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