Penat.. Stress.. SAHM or working mom (part two)

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Sebelum kita mula nah amek ni kata2 sentap dari blogger fofuler diana ishak.

As promised Kak ton cerita pasal working mom whom I think is multi tasker at their best. [Dengan izin babe, aku dah bagitahu kau pasal tribute ni so tlg jgn kecam aku hahaha ]. A friend of mine worked at one big organisation dekat KL nun, pagi2 siapkan breakfast (walaupun panaskan brownies untuk anak dia makan dalam kereta otw tu kindie), balik kerja masak (healthy food ye I might add) basuh baju etc etc and on top of that MENJAHIT! Dia buat pillow, bib untuk kawan-kawan, ada yg dia jual (I doubt dia untung la tapi sebab dia pemurah mungkin dia jual harga kain je). She does this with PASSION! She even buatkan costume untuk sports day kindie anak dia! Saturday and sundays masa suri rumah lain sibuk catching up on ironing, she does arts and crafts with her kids! 

Gambar curi dari fb dia kahkahkahkah

Now this is what a working women should be. You have your career in one hand, and to balance that you really take good care of your kids and membahagiakan diri dgn hobby!. I always told her how I admired her, into which she replied, I didnt see keadaan rumah dia yg tonggang terbalik. Which i am sure she dont mind sebab kepuasan diri dan dia dpt buat benda yg dia suka.

Now this brings us back to reality. Apa yang kita nak? Mcam kak ton episod lepas tu, memekak menjerit anak anak sepahkan rumah. Kak ton nak apa sebenarnya? Kak ton harapkan balik rumah semua kemas teratur, jadi kurungla budak2 tu dalam balang kaca atau carila solution lain. Cleaner seminggu sekali untuk kemas rumah? kang kalau cakap pasal bibik ramai yg sensitive pulak, ckp nak buat sume sendiri la, biar dia jaga suami dan anak2 sendiri la..fineeee.. but jgn stress dan marah budak2 la.. kan puas sebelum kawen dulu rumah spick and span? nanti bila budak2 tu semua dah pg university bersih la rumah acik tuuu. 

Ada juga kawan saya yang memang tidak mempunya banyak masa atas kekangan kerja (amboi skemanya kau). Like me, she shower her daughter with presents. Sampai ada org komen lah "manjakan sangat anak". I almost terpengaruh dgn kata-kata kawan until I went to her daughter's birthday party. She threw and extravagant birthday party with bouncer, clowns and what not BUT she did EVERYTHING herself. No party planner. Daripada laksa, ke goody bag, ke DJ, ke desert, semua DIA buat. It is one day that she really tumpukan all her energy to the daughter. Which I really think is another way for you to make up for lost time. 

Success story above on working moms lead me to SAHM. As I told u before, I am not the kind of person that can do the above. I brought the kids for shopping during weekends as a distraction. Thats how I spent time with them. I don't do arts and crafts, I use party planner for their birthdays. I vow to change it. Boy was I in for a treat. Have you ever feel so exhausted playing with your kids on the weekend that you cant wait to get to work on Monday to have a good lunch with your bestie at work?? Imagine having that kind of feeling everyday, but the problem is, u wont have that kind of break. The feeling is real. Unlike the pressure that u faced at work, dealing with kids are totally different thing. The exhaustion of chasing them to have breakfast, take their shower, getting them to pee pee every half an hour (Yerp missy 3 is currently undergoing her potty training), sending them to school, come back home to cook for her lunch sambil breastfeeding baby N and play with baby N, go back to school to fetch her, mengadap homework, bagi makan, pujuk for nap time, mandi, etc etc.. I am at a constant run. I must say that I am so lucky that el-kapitan understand that my priority is for the kids. I want to be able to give my 100% to them. So, the housework like washing, vacuuming, ironing, kemas after masak is still being done by my maid, I only sapu the second floor, cuci my own toilet and kemas katil. The rest is 100% kids and mummy time. Itupun I feel lethargic. I found myself yelling at my kids more because of the stressed [which I am trying to control now that I mcm dah stable sket haha].

Ehem..buat chicken stock sendiri konon lol

Tgk tv u ask? My tv time is after the kids gone to bed at 11 - 12 paling lambat, which I already dah penat hahaha. I have to prepare missy 3's book, baju for tomorrow. Think about apa nak masak esok, puree apa for baby N etc etc. But I love it. I know that the kids are in a good hand. Their mummy. I no longer bring the kids to shop every weekend, we have coloring activities, hide and seek satu rumah, buat cake dan mcm mcm lagi. But sometime I still need my 'ME"time. I want to hang out with my friends but I cant be sellfish. Weekends is their time to spent with their kids. Week days lunch time, I need to pick up missy 3 for from school and her lunch and nap time, so I cant go out with my working friends. Ok sebelum ada yang sibuk ckp "suami dia tak tlg"hahahhaha, el-kapitan is a sea fearer. He is at home like every 6 months. So my me time would be leaving the kids with the maid or if their grandparents take them to play for a good 2-3 hrs. Tired u may ask. YES. Stress? Sometime yes, but I always go back to my intention. I chose this way of life. LOVE IT. Masa mula2 berhenti mmg culture shocked as missy 3 pun tgh school break, so i dont have a routine yet. Stress, so hari2 i pg shopping aone hahaha. Now that I have my routine, I am settling down slowly but surely (tapi mcm kene kerja balik. Family busines. That is for another entry)

Jadi kesimpulannya di sini tuan-tuan dan puan-puan adalah, samada anda bekerja atau suri rumah, kedua-duanya mempunyai pros and cons tersendiri. Kedua-duanya memenatkan, tetapi ultimately yang menetukan adalah samada anda buat dengan PASSION yang akan automatically dtg dgn KEIKHLASAN atau anda buat dengan TERPAKSA untuk mengejar KEMEWAHAN yg akhirnya membawa seribu satu RUNGUTAN. Tidaklah pula saya meninggikan hidung dan berkata bahawa saya mempunyai PILIHAN jadi saya boleh BERSENANG LENANG menghias taman. Saya faham, ada antara kita yang terpaksa bekerja untuk KESTABILAN kehidupan. Percayalah langit yang mendung pasti akan datang KECERAHAN. IKHLASKAN dalam setiap perbuatan, Insya Allah akan ada JALAN. 

Sebelum saya mengundur diri I just have to put this comment from one of the facebook user for us to ponder:

Atas dasar apa saudari kata ianya terbaik apabila masa untuk keluarga tiada lagi? Antara kewajiban sebagai ibu dan isteri, dengan kewajiban program jabatan, yang mana lebih dituntut agama? Jangan terlalu mendongak ke langit kerana jawatan dan memandang enteng pekerjaan suri rumah seperti tiada kelas dgn keberuntungan yg di rendah rendahkan.

Fikirkan. 

Signing off now.